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Saturday, November 15, 2008 Today was another Mama NO toucha me day! I am not at all discouraged because I have seen times where she lets me in and she has fun and I can see many times that she doesn’t want to let herself have fun with me but she is…I think when we get home things will start to change. I make sure I do interact with her when I can but at the same time keep enough distance that it is comfortable for her. The play kitchen was a good time of that today. Laine, it really helped me look at things differently when you shared that it is helpful not judge how things are going by how the day went, because in adopted children their days vary so much from day to day, but to look back and think overall, was it a good week or a rough week? Laine said that it freed her from dwelling on a bad day and she looked forward to a better week in general. Looking back on this week, there has been so much progress and I am so thankful! Thank you so much Laine! Yesterday we had the opportunity to go to Vivi’s orphanage. I have always heard that it gives them closure. We were planning on going but we felt very uneasy because of the hard time she is having. The day before we were scheduled to go our friends, Melinda and Darrell (Dr. Pierce) and their sweet family came by our hotel to give us some Dramamine because Vivi has EXTREME motion sickness. While we were visiting I mentioned that we were planning to visit Vivi’s orphanage but we felt so uneasy. Darrell told us that even though it can give children closure, he felt at Vivi’s age she is old enough to understand some of what is going on but not understand enough. He felt with what Vivi has gone through and how it has affected her that it could be harmful and he said that if she were his child that he would NOT take her. Actually for him to say that was a great relief, Paul and I just want to do what is best for her. We really respect his personal and professional opinion. We feel like God placed us in China with the Pierce’s at the same time not just for Vivi and Shayle but to help us with this important decision. A family in our travel group went to the orphanage and took her son, she was so kind to take our gifts to the director and nannies. She also took pictures of Vivi’s bed and photos around the orphanage as well as her finding spot. She also ask a few questions that helps explain why Vivi is having such a hard time. Thank you so much Ellie, the photos and information you got for us is priceless and we will treasure it forever! Vivi lived in the orphanage until she was 3.5 years old and she was very very close to her nanny/teacher, Miss Chen, when she was put in the foster home she had a hard time because she loved Miss Chen and Miss Chen loved Vivi very much too. Vivi then lived in the foster home a little over a year and developed a strong bond and loved her foster mom, then in August of this year she was taken from her and put back in the orphanage, they said that she had a hard time adjusting at first because she loved her foster mother. When Vivi was brought back to the orphanage in August, Miss Chen was again her nanny/ teacher and although she had a hard time at first, the bond Vivi had with her became very strong again. Then three months later she is again not only ripped away from Miss Chen but from everything she has and has ever known. I love my precious girl so much! I just look at her and she makes me smile. We are so blessed! When this little one loves she loves deep and some day she and I are going to have a very strong and special bond. We love your comments and emails…keep them coming please, they make us feel close to home. Kristi your comment about inventing the “EYE” cracked me up….if you only knew how many times I have said to Paul….I see Kristi in this girl! Oh Kristi she is wonderful….full of Kristi spirit and spunk…get ready sister, she is going to melt your heart! We visited Yuexiu Park today and it was beautiful! Then we had a delicious Chinese lunch…I don’t think I have ever eaten as much as I have this trip…every time we turn around it is meal time….and the Chinese eat BIG...many dishes at one meal. Although it is delicious, I’m so ready for some good Tex Mex!! Blessings to you all….please keep lifting us all in your prayers….we are truly feeling them. God is so GOOD! Love you all, Paul, Kim Mr. Max and Miss Vivian Josephine

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